80:20
Yesterday I watched "Why Did I Get Married", one of the greatest drama movie I have ever seen. Not because of the actors or the actresses, but it is more because of the lessons I’ve got.
In this movie, Janet Jackson plays the key role as a nobled writer who observed her own bestfriends’ marriages, and even her own marriage, to discover the sensible reasons for people to survive in their marriages.
Nothing really special with the plot. Many bumps, fights, and disagreements between husbands and wives were shown up in most scenes. Not to mention that they were caused by a very simple little thing, but the interesting fact is that this is what most likely to happen in the real life. Many couples have to face problems caused by their children, the wives’ big mouth, the husbands’ behaviours, their own unwillingness to accept their partners as the way they are, even the existence of the tempter or temptress. (Hmm…now I thank God for granting me such a good, wise, and loyal husband…hehehe…)
What I learnt from those scenes is very simple, actually: that there will never be enough reasons for us to hold on to our marriages if there is no willingness to understand when the right times to take and when the right times to give. We should also remember that sometimes love should be supported by trust and respect. Sounds cliche, huh…? But that is how it works.
Another interesting thing in this movie was that one thing called 80:20 rule in every marriage life. This rule states that in every marriage, people must have given 20% of their hearts to another person besides their partners. However, uniquely, in most cases no one can ever replace the partner, the 80%, no matter how tempting the 20% is. Hmm…is it true…?
Well…if that happens to my marriage life, I can only hope and pray that God would lead the way so that my husband and I would never be blind to determine who the real 80% is…hehehe…*sigh*…